Yeah, that sounds quite presumptuous, I know... I am not a dietician, nor am I a professional bodybuilder. - but I can tell you that I'm a guy who enjoys food tremendously.
We're sensory animals and the kitchen is a place where these senses come alive.
A great big hearty steak, complete with mushroom sauce and cheesy salad tugs at my heartsleeves like a teenager on prom-night. (said with much respect for vegans and other offshoots of the dietary spectrum)
We also know that we like abs and we like to look good in our boxer shorts.
Abs are made in the kitchen and perfected in the gym.
So how the bleeding hell do all of these work together? You can't tuck in without getting a muffin-top, right?
I want to challenge you that you can have the best of both worlds. You see, the secret lies in the Calories you consume and the type of food you eat.
1) Calories in Vs Calories out
If a pound of fat has 3500 calories, and you eat 500 calories less than your maintenance amount of calories for a period of 7 days in a row, then you will lose a lb of fat over that period. There are many apps to help you track this. (Food in minus calories expended should result in a minus calories amount of between 300 and 500 if you're losing weight)
If you find yourself feeling deprived and needing more calories, simply up your caloric expenditure by exercising more.
2) The type of foods you eat...
The caveat here, is to consume high quality calories. You can't munch your way through pop-tarts, stay in your deficit and expect to develop rock-hard abs. You'll end up just being a smaller, chubby version of yourself.
Feed your body with high quality foods, (the less processed, the better) - Be mindful of your Carb to Protein to Fat ratio's, making sure you achieve a healthy balance. Personally I prefer a lower carb diet, but we're all different.
In closing, remember that you're in this for the long haul. Embrace food for the delicious addition to your life that it is. Its what separates us from animals.
God gave us taste-buds, so use them!